What is life for?(Your purpose)

 Have you ever heard of reincarnation?    

You will in a moment. 

You all likely may not know it yet but one way to look at life is this:

Life is about learning, experiencing, creating and overall strengthening yourself into the highest part of your physical existence (human body).

I'm not referencing ego here. 

It is about absorbing and balancing all that is good and bad in the physical world; in the end, simply doing what is right.

You are given all of the distractions, temptations and or vices; as obstacles along the way.  Think of things such as drugs, pornography, alcohol, murder (death) and or stealing.  All that which is wrong or bad.

It all isn't there for you to fall into(the trap),  but rather to be a stumbling block or obstacle to overcome in your physical body.

To be aware of it all, and find your way(navigate) away from it's intense pull toward those things.  Few can resist all the many temptations; all that leads you astray.

So what is hell? 

Hell,  is living 'a life' over and over and over, in different bodies until you finally get it right! 

Thus, you have reincarnation.  The cycle that continues all the way until you succeed in your own ascension, back to the "whole of you" in the universe.

To the infinite light of love.  (Fact or fiction?) You decide. 

Where are you on your journey?

Find yourself, align and get back on your true path!

How did we get to where we are today?

Answer: 

By ourselves.  (With clever and hidden manipulation as well)

We chose what to wear in the morning, before work or school.

 (How others will see us)

Some of us chose the vehicle we are driving. 

Most of us chose the type of work we do. 

We chose what music to hear, television shows to watch(which news sources etc)

We choose our friends or who we associate or not associate with. 

We chose what we eat( Being vegan, vegetarian, or just eat to survive in general) 

We choose what beverages we consume, excessively or not. 

We choose the teams in sports( One against another) 

We chose our faith, religion or beliefs 

We chose democrat/republican or other. 

We choose to be active or lazy. 

In all these, we chose or were somehow influenced to be; over the days of our lives.

We're all different but we all have one true purpose: Make life work for us! 

Survive; we are only here until we are no longer here. It isn't a competition, or race to the end. 

Just live, day by day by week by month by year. 

                      Successful, or not, you simply need to be yourself! 

All the wonderful material things you may accumulate in life, does not go with you.

 The memory remains. WHATEVER THAT, will be. 

You decide.

                                  

                                               Time to CHANGE

Just a thought(You're no different)

 You're no different than anybody else:   

 when you drive 10-20 miles over the limit.  When you pass another without using your signals.  When you rush ahead of me just to exit off the ramp in front of us.  When you ride up close to the rear of my vehicle or the one in front of you to try and intimidate the driver into getting out of your way. You're no different than anyone else. Look around! You are a copy or mirror image of the driver's or motorists all around you.                         

      You're no different 

 The difference between you and me?  I choose to be better.   I choose to signal my intentions. I choose to drive within the posted speed or at the limit.  I choose to be courteous and more patient than most. Yes in that aspect;  I am better than you (if these words are what it takes to get you to take the challenge, and better yourself) It takes discipline. It takes restraint. It takes wanting to make it from A to B safely and not as fast as possible.  

What is the point?  

We both still get there and that is the goal.  You're no different. 

   Time to change that in YOU

How did we get here? (Where we are today in society)

 This great "connected" earth we live on today:

We got to where we are now;(not our very existence, but how we are living) by ourselves. No matter how you look at it.

We decide upon religion/faith or to be atheist.(spirituality)  = division

We chose the teams in sports/ competitive events. = division

We decide on political parties or factions(control and structure.)  =  division

We choose our friends/ associates. (To be alone)

We chose the car or truck to drive(image)Where we live or decide to live without.

We decide what music to hear(what forms our thoughts)

 We choose the things we see on television(what forms our thoughts)

We choose who we are in identity(how others see us) Clothing etc.

We choose to eat any or all foods, to be vegan/vegetarian or not to eat but rubish(unhealthy)

Out of all this; we created division among ourselves! 

All chosen by what? "Free will" (Choice)

We can undo it all by choice.

                               So who is really in control?

                                                    We are, ourselves.

Ego VS. Conscience 

                                   What rules you?

The blurred lines of society(You decide)

 Some things in life require a drastic measure or course of action.

     In society, we have boundaries or lines placed upon us for one reason or another.  Be it rules, laws or simply structure for the life we live.

Whether it is religions, morals or otherwise.

Circumstances may arise where we as individuals,  must decide on our own to erase those lines or boundaries.(placed upon us in society)

Be it in marriage,  work, contractual agreements/debts or even the decision of life and death.  To donate organs or be cremated etc. 

It is your life.  If it is out of your control(circumstances) you simply must move on.

What else can you do?

Worry yourself into insanity or death ( internal misery/unhappiness)

The choice is yours, always has been.  

It may not be easy,  but no obstacle or path is ever smooth sailing.  

Where you desire to end up:  calmer waters where you are in control  of YOU.

Go after the peace and serenity within.

The native people's had it right, all along~ 

They lived upon the earth with respect for the things the earth provided.

They valued life; as well as knew it was necessary to take "life". 

Union was not necessarily ceremonial; but it was taken serious.  

They understood, there was and always will be a balance of good/bad.

They also did not attempt to dramatically change, the environment of which they lived!

Our world; heavily distracted

 

From our creation of smart phones with all of their capabilities, to the television and every means of distraction it possesses.   We are inundated with distractions.

Have you ever wondered why we celebrate holidays such as Christmas, the way we do today?

It is part of several that are primarily profit-driven.  That is not bad in and of itself but when it becomes expected; that is where we are today. Not only that, but these holidays begin to consume our minds well before they are upon us.  They tend to make us spend much effort, time and money. 

 Much in the pursuit of things we do not really need.  Material things or candies and treats to gifts that often are not used for very long as far as children go.  The children grow bored of most things after a while. Then it may be recycled to other children or it becomes waste in a landfill.

Consider religions, (Christianity having several holidays attached to it.)  If you take a step back away from it all.  Peel away the layers, you find the illusions of it all.  It's main purpose, outside of making a profit is being a predictable and focused distraction for all who become 'identified' or attached to it.

Distract us from what?  The bigger picture of life or the meaning of our lives.  If you pay attention, you see that so much is part of a means of continual distractions.  To direct our focus outward instead of inward.   Within ourselves and what our purpose here, individually truly might be.  Survive is what we first learn, and then to  grow, achieve and maintain, but to what end?

Overall, most are attached to the material world and all that one may posess (materially) while you are here.  A means of status in the world you live.  Think of those depicted on television shows like 'Jersey Shore' or even 'Friends'.  Both who you are, where you live and what you wear; look like or own is all apart of 'status'.    

  ~Does anything go with us to the otherworld when we pass away (die)?  Hmmm  

Movies, shows or other programs are all a means of distraction as well as simple amusement.  But it indeed goes futher than that.

How obsessed do some become with the music industry (rap, metal or rock music, to even country)?  Obsessed with any new trend or 'what is in' at least for a time?  

With entertainment such as the WWE; and actors like Arnold Schwarzenegger,  you get men/women obsessed with their bodies.  Thus you have gym memberships for all.  Obsessed with an immaculate body.  For who and to what end?  That is great to achieve such levels with the human body however,  But for society?  Does our immaculate body or appearance remain for all time?  No but there is a bit of personal gratitude in such feats or achievements.

Look closer at our obsession in the sports arena; basketball, football (America), soccer and baseball.  All favorite past-times but also major parts of our focused distractions.  Something our Ego becomes attached to, in a big way.

Other aspects such as the outdoor activities like skiing, both water and snow.  ATV riding and hang gliding.  All wonderful ways to enjoy the outdoor life, however it becomes a status symbol for many.  

An obsession that is a magnifier of the ego; that is where it is no longer for leisure and recreation. It becomes related to that of the  'for-profit' industry.  Overall, it has a purpose of distracting us besides simply an outlet or recreation.

Many are counting on the numbers (you) to be there so their profit remains.  Wonderful; nothing wrong with that until you go into a city and you have four or five different chicken or hamburger places to eat from. Automobiles for sale galore and by the way; who is possibly buying them all?  Ask yourself; why do we constantly feel we need new, or newer?  Just a question (things to ponder)  Think outside the impulses of life.

So many distractions and the pursuit of something other than what is found within 

                                                                   'inner peace'.

Life is an adventure for some,  and for many others; they are trying to fit in.  

So you have social media today:  It speaks for itself.  

How many children are affected in a positive way, as a result of social media?

Just keep in mind, you only need to make you happy.  You need to function and survive, wherever you are in the world..  Start with the essential, basics of living.   Plan out life beyond there and look inward, find out who you really are and ask yourself:

Are you in control?

Look at yourself and awaken.  Discover life and yourself beyond the distractions meant to keep us from seeing the bigger picture in our lives.  What matters to you, not to everyone around you.

I've found that looking at ways to help others, is far more rewarding than just pleasing yourself in this world.  We all could learn and discover more!  

Life is; tough love.

 

Here in the real world, we are about survival (No matter where you are on the earth)

We are here to learn, discover and realize 'What is', life's purpose.  Our purpose! 

The reality seen today, has not improved from that of a few decades ago.

(When you measure the good versus bad)  We are faced with more distractions and tempting thoughts or ideas.  We are becoming more isolated within,  although through this technology; we've never been more 'connected'.

  More and more people wish to share their lives on social media,  and what they oddly share, is the illusions of their lives.  

 Trying to show how good your life is to the world when in most cases, life is a tug of war between working and debt from your everyday and or monthly expenses to the unknown scare tactics on the horizon ( ie; viruses, terrorism, wars, to inflation and commodity hoarding) while attempting to make the most of the material world.  All the things that you may physically acquire, for your happiness or status.

All the while, you feel there is something missing. You may wonder who and what really matters in your life (here and now).  It isn't the few hundred or thousand followers or likes that you are seeking approval.  It is not the people you pass on the way to work or at the grocery store.

  Only you matter to you.  Everything else, is your own "isolated ego", that seeks inflation as a collapsed balloon seeks air.  It isn't a contest everyday to see how big we can inflate our isolated-ego,  yet that is how most seem to live.  We have days that do not go well.  We have the usual days that things go relatively fine.  Such is life;  but in life, there are lessons, trials, hardships and happiness. Sadness to joy and tears to regret. 

All that is a form of teaching, if we are going to pay attention. The anger or frustration is simply our isolated ego, not getting it's way.  Let it go, let it be just another day.  

No expectations, no distractions. 

Some things occur beyond our control.  

There is a time to search for the answers, but it may be some other day.

Just live, with no fear of falling or failing because you'll have to just get right back up.  No expectations since no one really owes you anything!  

However, the lessons in life; they are all yours to decipher.  You and everyone around you or those you see; all are here until no longer here.  In existence.

Good or bad, you know the answer.  You have a choice.  (FREE WILL)

You also accept whatever consequences in life.  

Or gain the rewards of your actions.

     Life is tough love(Do not complicate it unnecessarily)

              Do not let others shelter you from experiencing that, 'tough love' in life.

              Think outside the norms of society.  It may very well be that you've been indoctrinated all along.  

                                 Trained to follow and not discover for yourself! 

The messenger (the message ) and the discovery~

 It resides within your hands!

The journey of your life, has always been in your hands.

You possess the knowledge, the power and in time you'll create the path of which to follow.

You must go back in time (your time, that you know and remember).

Go back to the simple ways of life, possibly before the time you were born.

Think of America's 1800's and the old west.~

Better yet, look back into the days before we even kept track of time, days, months and years.

That simpler way of life on earth (Get the picture?)

Life was in your hands, although through much harder work; just in being able to live, survive and  thrive!

You could trust more, around you then.  You had far less distractions (fewer temptations).

Life was more like the old saying; "it takes a village".

Law and order was very much in the early stages  (infancy)

Nevertheless, you had the moral grounds of which most lived by.

The, "do unto others as you would expect they would do unto you".

~Respect~

As time, and our societies evolved:  Countries were founded or created. (Discovered.)

 So too, did laws of the land and the order of which we all would evolve into living.

You had a choice all along; choosing right or wrong. Good and bad. Moral or unjust. 

 Control (dominate )

or Free will.

Success or failure!                 

It has always been in your hands, regardless of the obstacles, trials, health, or otherwise. 

There are some exceptions.  Look a little closer at all the details.  If you still need help?

Just ask, or simply communicate that desire.

 This is here for You.

Find out, once and for all, who you really are.  Simply by learning to live without your ego, dominating you.

It is time to change!     Time to discover!         

The universe awaits...

Do you know him? (How is he similar to God)?

Is he real or fiction?

I've heard this too many times.

Read comments such as;  "how could there be a God  that exists and allows such evil, or bad things to occur in our lives?"

Answer: You're looking at the world through a straw!

Get the bigger picture!

Here is one way to look at it:

How can Captain America be everywhere there is a villain or bad guy in the world, and do all he can with all his might to stop their evil ways or poisoned minds from acting out?

Answer: he simply cannot.

 To me, it seems nearly impossible to do it all.  We as 'good people' in the world, still have to do our part to find cures or purge the evils of society. From where we live, to our abilities beyond. 

In essence; we are the heros.  Just as law enforcement assets capture, detain or lock away bad people in the world.  Scientists, doctors, those in health professions; searching for cures or ways to overcome the perils in life.  So it actually makes sense to me that way. It doesn't seem like fiction to me?    

                                             

Granted, as much as we do wish that superheroes like Captain America existed; in reality, those hero's are the average person in society. Willing to step up!                      (Look at yourself)

                It takes a concerted effort on our part, in conjunction with believing in yourself.

God,  (You) cannot save those who do not wish to be saved.  (Yourself)  He (you) also cannot be everywhere, but we are everywhere. Some are certainly in the right place, at the right time to help or 'rescue' someone.  It simply takes, acting on our part.  Jumping at the right time when the call was there to be answered. 

I imagine, some know what it is like to feel as if no one is there, or no one is reaching out to you.  

Offering help, when they (others) are just a shout, call or within walking distance.  Am I wrong?

You ponder that, you decide.

*For those who do not believe in anything; do you not do good deeds anyway?

WHO IS IN CHARGE?

 

A simple question, with a simple answer:

You are in charge! 

To clarify; you over the age of 18 years.  You who feels or believes in your mind or heart that you can take on the weight of any such responsibility yourself.  

You own your actions.

You own your thoughts.

You are the one that posesses the highways and bi-ways within your brain.  Granted, there are things in the world and in life that can alter or affect a personal decision. Injuries to the brain are the least of our control. 

 What you get from the reading of books, watching with your eyes or experience from drugs or the altering 'drug' of the internet today; you still own! 

Drinking alcohol; for any reason or any amount in your system.  You may have had a forethought that "if I'm under the influence of alcohol, and I want to do this to her or that to him?, I can blame the alcohol.   Wrong!  You own it!

Unless you are under the age of 18 (in most countries)  and or living at home. Or with extended family, friends or roommates.  You have limitations to what you are in control of. (Outside your mind).

Don't like being in control? See options below.

Your actions or personal decisions can certainly change that for you and even others.

-Incarceration(jail, prison, detention)

-Boot camp (military basic and or extensive training)

-Religious institutions(groups or cults or any aspect thereof) For many; you subject yourself to that religion's rules or 'way of life'. Even when you may deep down feel it is against your inner being.

Going forward from today, just remember this:  No one is making you do anything.  You cannot use peer pressure, society or trends as an excuse.  You cannot say you were forced too, unless directly held down with straps on a gurney or chair.  Walking into a store to steal one or more items.  Driving down the road with phone in hand (eyes upon it) after striking an individual, be it in the street or sidewalk. You own it!  

You cannot say to the world, "I had such an awful life growing up, and that is why I am this way and have done what I've  done".

Anything you could possibly imagine doing, when you know that somewhere in society it is frowned upon or against the law.  You own it! (Being "woke" does not count, you people need to "rethink" what you are doing)

Go about your life and do what is just and right, morally speaking.

*Few cannot tell right from wrong and they are the only exception.

Change who you are for the better,(no excuses)

it's about time.

                                                                                                                                        ~In memory~

                                                                                                         (Pat Tillman; 1976-2004) You lived                                                                                  life as a balanced man with ferocity and kindness.  True to yourself!

THE STRENGTH OF A NATION (COUNTRY)

The identity of a nation,

begins with borders that it can and Will defend.       

The people within its borders love their country.

Many,

 have generations of family before them, that have worked hard over the years to improve they're own lives as well as the strengthening of the country itself; simply by contributing as a working citizen.

Thousands, have chosen(in one way or another),a willingness to die for their country.

Very few have desired, that their country might fail someday.

The people of this (any) nation had never wanted a supreme leader of the land.

Only, a chosen individual selected every so often; to guide protect, sustain and keep the nation prosperous.  (As in tribal lands of a country)

With Strength and Wisdom!

Not just for power and to maintain it.

Many, otherwise are spiritual.  Believe in themselves and, maybe a God or entity unseen, yet felt from within.

They have a faith to achieve and overcome.

These people are willing to live among a blended array of other people from different backgrounds or nationalities; so long as we all love the country just the same.   (Varying ethnicities; but otherwise a common belief and the will to remain and survive!)

 

Never has a country allowed to keep for very long, a poison (ideology) or cancer within its boundaries.

The likes of men or women that seek to destroy it from within;  But instead, like a rotting tooth; it must be removed!     All those who hold office in our country that either by action or words, seek to destroy it from within; (MUST BE REMOVED.)   Our way isn't perfect but it is as close to perfect through trial and error; than any other, in the history of the earth.

A nation is Strong and Sustained by the people who love, and nourish it. (Grow and maintain)

So be it.

                                     

 

 

  

Las Vegas; it seems as if it is a dazzling place, right?

 

Most of you know about Las Vegas.  Either in the movies, travel brochures or possibly through friends.

It had always been one of those "must see" destination cities in the U.S.

With all the lights, entertainment, casinos and otherwise exciting atmosphere; it is just another desert city that has thrived, and succeeded in a way to draw the masses toward her. 

It has its dangers as well, as you might know.  You can hardly walk away from there without, or already having a terrible vice(addiction) or several.  Many can come and go without being as affected.  Self control and restraint, must be a personal strength.   

So many are fortunate to not have that experience overcome them in life, even at such a young age.

The dangers and outright overwhelming experience of so many things all at once.  The temptations  one can easily go through like the pages in a magazine.  (If you are not a religious individual, by any means; surely you do know what is Good and Bad for you)   No?  

Today with the internet and all these 'smart phones' nearly everyone has access to, (children) teens and the elderly to the obvious.  The internet and everything these phones have access to today, are one in the same with Las Vegas.  You get all the risks, dangers, excitement, pleasure and abilities you may possess being in a city like it.  It can and literally does take hold of you and soon, you are no longer in control.  For nearly all; they are addicted to the phones and all these things they offer in our daily lives. 

Sadly, few will break free of this intent need for the phone(mini computer with phone capability).

I challenge any of YOU, to break the addiction.  Get back in control of your lives and back to the simplicity of life as it once, was;  Before the phones of today.  It is up to you.

Good luck,

The strong will prevail and survive.

Global contraction?(What is the reason of this virus?)

A necessary contraction,                                   CONTROL
of our American economy and the global effects of this Wuhan virus (They call it Covid).
What is really going on in the world today?                  CONTROL
We're 5 months into this new year of 2020, and "nobody saw this coming".  A contraction of our great economy with record numbers for unemployment and stock market gains, etc.  
All within the last couple of years, and then suddenly a plug was pulled and down the drain it all went!  All because of a 'virus' from east Asia  (China)   Spread by contraction, person to person.
Hmmm, so what is really happening?  One thing is certain; so many new implementations locally(state-governed) shutdowns of businesses, restaurants and the dine-in abilities.  Las Vegas, being shut down?  Who would have ever dreamed this could ever have occurred?  
It is possible that all this didn't just happen because of the virus.  It is possible and conceivable to be a pre-emptive assault on so many fronts.  Planned many years ago as a scenario, not long after 9-11-2001                                            CONTROL
If you look closely and pay more attention to all the details in the air (news)  Scary things are emerging from this.   All they were looking for was 'opportunity'.  
Silent weapons, for silent wars.  Now it (the fear) did generate from China, but there was a global agenda at hand. Initially, nothing much was thought of it.  Something contagious similar to the flu, only in ways more deadly to select peoples, and seemingly unstoppable at the time.
Ever since, otherwise successful economies have been reduced to a near stall.  

Seemingly, a select few nations have had minimal impact by all this occurrence(very little overall damage).  China; particularly where it is said to have originated.  Deaths are the focus and being reported nearly everywhere.  Countries are locking down, disrupting global and local travel.  
Fear, panic, and hysteria in some cases.  Opportunists, taking advantage of the whole dire situation. Hoarding essential, even non-essential commodities.  Animal livestock, dairy all being wasted with no where to sell(less the demand).  Certain countries enacting initiatives to 'track and isolate' citizen peoples of their land.  What is going on?        

           

                  CONTROl

CONTROL

                  Control 

Today: January 21, 2022

I do not understand why the various government entities would want to further the vaccine expectation for federal employees, private or otherwise.  It only tells me that this agenda is more about...  You guessed it:  CONTROL.  You decide for yourself.

We the people, have a say;Question everything

   

We the people, have a say/Question everything!

Do you even know what that means?

Be mindful

Be aware

Nothing is ever what it seems

Know, that it isn't impossible(to orchestrate)etc...  Chaos

From ordinary seasonal disasters like wildfires, hurricanes, tornadoes to local police actions exploding into national unrest. An opportunity, does not get passed; to further an agenda.   It isn't impossible.  

Examples:  The media narrative.(Political pundits, social media, News organizations) COVID-19.  Assasination(attempts).  Mass shootings. Regional flare-ups(Afghanistan/Iraq) Syria, Ukraine, Israel/Gaza. 

Put all the pieces together,  yourself.   Less, the distractions(meant to be just that; distractions)

History has a strange way of repeating itself.

Lies, so often repeated becomes the narrative; TheTRUTH!

Read; the history of Nazi Germany and the rise of the 3rd Reich. 

Often, you need to step back,  like seeing the world from the international Space Station:  Get the bigger picture of what is occuring/happening.

Is there a reason why less and less is being taught about the past(world wars, regional conflicts or "police actions"?  In today's schools, the focus is on confusion(gender identity or the lack of knowing, who you really are)

Sowing division across every aspect of our lives, from sports, to religion, to political parties and the brands of vehicles we buy(Tesla or Chevrolet,  Toyota or Ford etc.) Even what brand of clothing we buy(trending).

Remember,  that often it is the Victor that tells the story(narrative) not the losing side.  

Agenda: Pushing Fear, fear, fear, fear, FEAR.

End result is control.  Simple as that. 

We the people, do have a say.  Especially,  here in America 🇺🇸. 

Question everything!

Dream Theater - The Spirit Carries On

Where did we come from, why are we here?  Where do we go when we die?
If you die tomorrow...  What choice do you have and what do you leave behind?  (life is too short) unpredictable, so many leave so soon, (so young!)   Yet some live a longer life(Clint Eastwood, George H.W. Bush) and some say that the end is still unknown.  Here is a song that helps calm those stirring thoughts.  Give it a listen and open up your mind.
                                                       Take it in with a deep breathe; exhale, it is your LIFE!

Steppenwolf ~ It's Never To Late.flv

Have you ever felt like your life was heading in the wrong direction and suddenly given circumstances or on your own, you changed course?  The path you were following was taking you, where you didn't want to be. 

Reflections of your life(or someone else's), passed through your mind.  The ending wasn't what you ultimately wanted it to become.  You could suddenly see the bigger picture. 
How about finding yourself in a life-changing situation, maybe even life/death?  The difference between being whole, and losing part of you (physically or mentally) that being an accident, injury. Sickness or divorce.  (I have)  Look around you in the world (you know) today.
Tell me; why do some suffer so much? and yet, some seem to have a flawless life?

  

Why do some hunger more than others; while some have more than enough?

Not every question seems to have a clear answer.  Not every problem, can a solution be found.  If there is no solution; well there simply is no problem.

How does an individual begin with nothing in life.  Living once in the gutters of  a place they called home/survival; or in some area in between.  They rise up from that poverty and struggle, and live like a king(queen)?  How is that even possible, for any one individual, to achieve or gain so much in life?  Or remain an unknown, like the stars in the sky.  

They are driven! Those individuals had nothing else to lose and as long as they had a breathe in them; they fought on in their pursuit!

 With the technology of today, you can learn of several, that had the toughest of beginnings; later to flourish in life. (current UVU president Astrid S. Tuminez) is one example.  Many came from the unknown, to center stage in life. 

 Is it all based on chance? A roll of the dice?

Tell me, who is really in control? Who's guiding your life?  Are you a leaf on a pond, or as a ship on the ocean?  Can you change the direction of your life?
You're not the only one that has struggled, stumbled or suffered and fell.  You may be one that just gave up, too soon.  Expected to much from something, you were never entitled to from the beginning.

  So what is the difference between then and now?  That's for YOU to decide.

  Let me ask you; you're still breathing and very much alive?  Then what other excuses have you, if you haven't changed your life?   Is it by chance that you've survived or do you think; is it just not your time?  Look at the "in between"  empty what is full and fill that which is empty!  

Life; Think about it

When I was a young boy, I didn't take life to seriously.
 I just wanted to enjoy being where I was at the time.
  Imagination running wild!  Roaming free and doing whatever I thought to do, whether there was consequence or not.
  Taking chances and sometimes testing boundaries.  I still knew right from wrong however.
 Sometimes I orchestrated things to shift blame away from myself.  Clever and intuitive I was; but the conscience remained intact.
You realize as the years go by, how important it is to be responsible for your actions. "Man up," as they say.  Some of us need examples to be structured and molded after.  (Discipline and guidance along the way.) 

 It is something lacking far more today than when I was a young boy in the 80's.
 To many distractions and excuses these days to not parent, properly. 

 Sacrifices must be made and time is essential to make it all work effectively.

We all thought that parent's that smoked or often drank alcohol was bad; which it indeed is but they were still capable of, and actually followed through with parental structuring. 

Discipline was a little harsh,  although effective!   Maybe wasn't the best of times but it was parenting in a sense; better than those constantly distracted with the phones of today.

 Today, with the phones and all the social media or games; let alone the work they are doing away from home. There is little or no attention being given directly, as a result.  Their time, is far too important to actually engage as parents.

  So you have children growing up and being  baby-sat,  by that very distraction that consumes the parent's time!  No imagination or even the slightest tolerance for boredom for most children.  Where do you think all the anxiety comes from as a result?  (Certainly there are exceptions to the parents I just mentioned)

They cannot handle time, without something stimulating occurring.  Gradually over the years, we were introduced to these distractions(to include vehicle dvd players) so that a reliance or dependency developed.

  Convenient, it may have been but the long-term affect was destructive to the young minds as they matured through age.
Cause and effect; today the solution is prescribed drugs that we never before relied so much upon.  What a weak, weak  society we are raising our children in.  Dangerous for our future, no matter how they attempt to make it seem; so much better and convenient for our fast paced, daily lives we live.

If you want the answers to reverse most of what is already occurring; just look back on your own childhood and structuring.  Go back to the days before cell phones, video games and WiFi access.
Carefully plan and reconstruct your household or individual life so that you see these new technologies as tools, only used when necessary.  Not obsessive or mandatory in the everyday life you're living in.
Seem impossible? If you say so; You're not in control of much are you?   Your privacy is gradually deteriorating (more and more) with each passing year.  Get the bigger picture in life!
Slow down, and take away all the expectations you feel are placed upon you.                                       
Surviving, is first and foremost!
  

Don't plan too far into the future; only as far as you can manage.  You're not there, til you're there!